||[Jul. 24th, 2006|11:40 am]
I am the New One in the family.|
My girlfriend has 3 children, a girl age 5 (6 in September) and twin boys of 4. We live a 4 hour train ride apart so weekend time and holidays/vacation days are used to get as much as possible.
You know how it goes – first you stay for one night, then you stay the following weekend too, then you have a couple of days of work and you try to spend that with the dear ones……..you leave a toothbrush and the some clothe. It still goes slow but it grows and at times I can not believe this people – especially the children give me love. I am hoping we will get far and maybe I have a chance to get my working place close to her and we can be together.
Right now it is a bit tough to handle things. Of course when my GF separated from the kids father they could not understand. I am sure they do now – the best possible way – because my Lady is an awesome mom and found a way to tell the little fellers the situation in a way they understand – “Dad is not coming back to life with us”.
Still I see it takes time to be accepted as the new person sleeping next to mom, going out in the evening with mom, be nice to mom…….we do not kiss in font of the kids or do anything else. At this time no need to confuse them.
Still I see a lot of work and respect, understanding and acting grown up is needed to make this happen. It started great – I was accepted right away. Now we got to the point were it takes me to act less touchy and keep in mind that they are kids and their brain works different (more pure) than the one of grown ups.
I hope things work out………….wish me luck?